Anybody who knows me can tell you that I like to stick to the plan. I have never been that type of person to change plans, unless its an emergency or to make the original plan better. See, growing up, I always had a plan; didn’t most little girls? Have an awesome childhood, become a famous actress, get married to Denzel Washington and have the most adorable kids ever! Hello! Who wouldn’t want that life? When I met my boyfriend, we both worked at Blockbuster Video, I got pregnant and we got married. Not a part of the plan. On my “Wedding Day,” I didn’t plan on my future “family” trying to ruin my special day. Not a part of the plan. I went to the doctor when my son, Jordan, was 3 1/2 years old and was told that he needed to be tested for Autism. Wait… doctor, he was just talking? You said less than a year ago he was ahead of his milestones, that he’s smart and quick. Autism? What’s that?
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), or autism, is a disorder of the brain. Or several disorders. People can have trouble with social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication, and repetitive behaviors. Wait, Wait, Wait, my son was just talking! Autism is not a part of the plan. Why does this happen? Who’s to blame? How much will the cure cost? There is no cure, a person with autism must learn to live with it. Now you need to get a therapist, a special school, try a special diet, don’t force him to interact, your son may never be smart, he may never drive a car, he may be incapable of learning, he may never know his name, some children stop walking…
This is not a part of the plan. My name is Nyisha. I have a son, Jordan (7), who is on the spectrum. I started this blog because I felt that someone needed to start being honest about how it truly feels to live with this diagnosis. When a person gets diagnosed with autism (or anything cancer, blindness, tumor), the whole family gets diagnosed. Things change. Your hopes and dreams must change. Your diet changes. The way that your friends and family treat you can change. What you will read in this blog is my journey with my oldest son Jordan(7), my youngest son Dominic(5), and my wonderful hubby, Will. We are a gluten-free, Vegan family. We have decided to eat this way for our son and we have learned a lot about ourselves, our marriage, our kids, Christianity and what type of parents we choose to be.
When my son Jordan was diagnosed I wanted to give up. My hubby reminded me with God all things are possible and we have to help our son be the man we know that he can be. In this blog there are recipes, advice for parents, videos (coming soon) and special diet advice (I prefer to say lifestyle choice). I learned along the way that I must accept that some things in life will be. Instead of complaining about them, I can overcome them. To overcome doesn’t always mean that the situation will never be, it does mean that if you work hard enough you can be a success and, most importantly, so will your child. I pray you enjoy this journey with me.
Hear it. Accept it. Overcome it. Be an Autism Overcomer.